Hello all!
I hate to be part of this group but I am so glad you are here and that I found you.
I am really wondering if anyone has had the following experience???
I was recently scammed my someone using images of Victor S. on OK Cupid with a profile that said he was located in London. He said he had switched it to London because he was there for work but would be back in NYC in a week. He told me he lived in Park Slope and worked in Manhattan.
We switched to Kik messenger and the person "Wallace" completely led me into a rabbit hole. I can hardly describe how much intimacy was shared between us- mostly on my part as the person craftily got it out of me by using a kind of emotional-sexual hypnotism.
The English used was quite good and never led me to suspect anything but typos. He used very seductive language as well as all kinds of words and phrases to make me trust him. He was pretty subtle.
The photos of Victor S. completely enamored me. I basically was ready to go on a date with the guy after a couple of days of chatting. He told me he was stunned by my photos and that he wanted me to call him Daddy and said he wanted me to be his little girl. He said he was a widower. He trapped me in a sexual dynamic I had no idea about which is called Dominant Daddy- Little Girl. Ok I know that seems absurd but he really hooked me in the most bizarre way and I had never had any experience with anything like this before. We exchanged erotic photos and messages.
Then he said he was still in London and I asked him to send me a picture of him in the moment. He sent one of himself in a car - well this set off my bells because even though it said it was a current photo on Kik messenger, the photo showed him in the daylight and it would have been 11pm there. Then he said he had been lying to me and that he was really back in NY and was driving in from the airport. He'd need time to recover from jetlag but wanted to meet me for dinner on Monday. This was a Friday. So then he said he had to cancel because of work. I was super bummed. He told me he was going to go on vacation so he could just hang out with me! But he had to get a certain amount of work done before he could do that. We kept messaging a lot and finally he said to meet him at Maison Premier at 6pm on Wednesday.
Well I thought- this guy has class!
So the strangest thing is that he never asked me for anything like what people are reporting on here. But I did tell him my name and give him my phone number.
On Tuesday he wrote me and told me that he hadn't been telling me the truth. That he lived in London really and although he had lived in NYC for three years he wouldn't be coming back. He told me he loved me. He said I was the most beautiful woman he'd ever known and seemed so perfect for him and he was so sorry for what he'd done to me and he felt really bad, and that he had to end this "relationship". I was shocked.
We went back and forth a bit still with messages, and I was very suspicious of course, and then I found a website called
www.tineye.com and I uploaded the photo from the car on there, and that is what led me to this site. I have been absolutely blown away that I was scammed by someone using these same photos. It totally blows my mind.
I had deleted my OK Cupid account so I cannot remember the name he used on there but on Kik Messenger he used the name Wallace Showinger. He told me his real name was Wallace Stone.
This whole event is incredibly embarrassing and has been emotionally tolling for me. I am also worried that I shared so many of my private details with him- such as problems in my marriage, intimate photos etc... I fear the repercussions, if there are any. But at the same time I don't know what they would be. I was never asked for money. But I wonder if my images are being used somewhere.
Does anyone have advice on this matter?
I guess most of all I am sad that there are so many people involved, from Victor whose photo identity is being used, to those who gave away money. It is a terrible thing and has opened my eyes up incredibly quickly.
I am posting the images I was sent, minus the erotic ones which were surely from some other place.
Is there anything else I should do?
S