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Sad and not angry?

Postby username10262016 » Sun Nov 13, 2016 4:31 pm

I have been 'groomed' for many months. Sadly it's all come to a messy end. I'm heartbroken but why am I not angry. I feel bereft. I'm so STUPID .

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Re: Sad and not angry?

Postby Igulinka » Mon Nov 14, 2016 3:02 am

We are very sorry for the scam. We know exactly how it feels. On the one side you feel like your world just ended, you were lied, manipulated, humiliated, brainwashed and there is another side - relief that control is over and now you are regaining your power, energy, wisdom. Please know it does get better and heart pain will ease every day. Read our Support and Advice section for more understanding. You will see you not alone.

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Please BLOCK and IGNORE. You must remain strong now and time will heal the scares. Good luck and be well.
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Re: Sad and not angry?

Postby Wingman182 » Thu Nov 17, 2016 6:03 pm

Hello and welcome to R.S.
First off please don't think of yourself as stupid. These are professional criminals, and they are extremely good at what they do. We all feel duped in the beginning, but as we learn more about this crime and heal we are able to see this whole event more clearly. And in time you will too.
It is also not surprising that you are only feel sad in stead of anger. As you have stated. You feel bereavement and that is exactly what you are going through. Regardless of their motives your feeling at the time were real and genuine. You have now lost something that was special to you. So like losing a love one you are grieving. And like all grief this will pass.
There are many step during the grieving process and anger is among them. But even if the anger never comes you at least have broken away from the scam. And that is a victory you can hold on to.
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Re: Sad and not angry?

Postby Woodsman » Thu Jan 23, 2020 6:40 am

I feel hurt and I feel despair .Despair that no one will ever love me .You are not alone here .

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Re: Sad and not angry?

Postby kathyleen » Tue Jan 28, 2020 6:44 pm

I feel the same. I was scammed. But I found power for searching my love. And did it. Just never give up my friend.

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Re: Sad and not angry?

Postby ricardos » Fri Feb 07, 2020 2:17 pm

I have same problems. I was scammed girls from Ukraine or Russia. Never believe this woman's from this country.

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Re: Sad and not angry?

Postby Wingman182 » Wed Feb 19, 2020 9:11 pm

Hello Woodsman and welcome to RS.
I too am very familiar with the despair you speak of. So you are most defiantly correct, many of us are not alone when it comes to this feeling.
This feeling of despair was a constant companion of mine for most of my life. Watching other couples walking by. Seeing the gleam of love in their eyes they shared. Always wondering when it would be my turn. It's not like I never dated, I did. But things where never aloud to get deeper or more serious. When things came around to that they would want to back off telling me that I was too nice of a guy to take it farther.
Too nice. How could a guy be too nice?
This was intended to let me down easy for being the gentleman that I was, but in the end it only left me doubting every aspect of myself. And worse. It tore away at my self confidence to the point I was examining myself through a very fine tooth comb.
There had to be more to it. Being too nice,,, it just did not compute. How in the world could anybody be too nice.
But long story short this loss of self confidence lead to despair. And the despair eventually lead to desperation. And it was desperation that lead me to the wonderful world of internet dating web sites. And wouldn't you know it. The first serious connection I make is with a romance scammer. And boy did they hook me good.

Now I know I'm not alone in this. I'm merely voicing what many of us have felt in the past or are currently feeling right this moment. I'm just more comfortable about writing about it is all.
And on that note I'll say something else. It wont be easy to hear and I know this is not always going to be the case. But here it is.
Sometimes we have to be broken in order to see what we are looking for. Now I'm not talking broken just a little. I'm talking about being broken all the way down to the bare foundation. Then and only then can you truly see.
And don't be surprised if it was right in front of you the whole time.
It was for me.
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