Hello, after 3 weeks of daily texting in the month of August 2018, my romance scammer asked me for $15K USD to help him out of a business related bind, and that’s when my guard went up and I immediately accused him of being a romance scammer, which he denies.
The interesting thing is that after I said NO and expressed my upset towards him, he quickly apologized for asking me for help, told me that he’s sorry for worrying and bothering me, and said that he will figure out his issue/problem himself.
Also, after seeing my reaction, he said that he doesn’t want my money or help, even if I offered to help him. I then decided to scam bait him on several occasions, including offering to get a loan for him, plus I told him that I have a large bill to collect from an ex-client, which would give me a chunk of cash, but he has not once followed up with any of my baits, expressed interest, or asked me for money again.
Another thing is, I've vented my anger and upset at him for deceiving me and he has consistently responded by saying he's not a romance scammer, and that he doesn’t blame me for feeling suspicious, that he understands why I feel the way I do, and that it’s all his fault.
IOW, even when I'm upset with him and accusing him of being a romance scammer, although he said he doesn't like me insulting him, he has been calm, kind, patient, and understanding on the most part.
This has been really hard for me, I’m still feel traumatized, because I really liked this guy and enjoyed the friendship we were developing, and he keeps insisting he’s not a romance scammer, but I am 99% sure he is.
I've been having a very hard time stop thinking about him and recovering from the betrayal and shock, as it's been only a couple of days since our chats have subsided, and so this relationship has taken up about 1 month of my time.
Finding this web site has been a lifesaver, I am so happy I found this site when I did, as I've been feeling very alone with this.
I am too embarrassed, ashamed, and humiliated to tell anybody what has happened, especially after telling at least 12 people (friends, family, colleagues) that I had possibly found my dream man, only to be romance scammed.
I will not be able to tell the truth to anybody, except with sharing what happened to me on this forum.
So, I'm posting here today because I would like to find out if what I’ve described above is common romance scammer behavior, or am I dealing with a different kind of romance scammer, one who has a conscience and a heart, and who is kinder than the rest?
I don't know if this guy is from Nigeria or Russia, or from somewhere else, and I wasn't able to pinpoint his accent, as we've only had a very brief chat once.
Also, I am wondering if it is safe for me to keep chatting with him, but this time as a scam baiter, to waste his time from scamming other women?
Or, is it better for me to just forget about him and move on? Thanks in advance for any replies.