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This is quite normal and very healthy of you to recognize this. Two years in mourning is not unreasonable because it is your time, the time you need. Everyone is different. Some can bounce back in a week, others might go on for many more than two. Accept it for what it is and leave it be. Worrying about time always makes it go the opposite of what you want.I actually didn't like him from the beginning but was so desperate,
If people really do feel they can't trust you then don't put them in any position where they have to trust you or you need or request their trust. They will stop feeling that way when they don't feel they're being forced into it. Meanwhile, are you absolutely sure that is how they feel? Have you asked them? Have they said? Be clear and straight with the people that matter in your life. If they say they don't trust you, then clear the air by apologizing and committing to not put them in that position again. And keep your word. Time will mend these relationships. But be sure you are not projecting your own feelings of insecurity and inadequacy on them. They may not understand how you fell for a scam (most people don't understand this), but they still may not be blaming or mistrusting you.I feel I need a sense of closure and the emotional hurt it has caused me because I feel people think I can't be trusted.
Bankruptcy is hard. For many here, it has been the only resolution for the financial carnage that these scammers leave behind. It will be a long time in recovering from that, longer than the sick feeling of failure lasts, because it follows you for years after on your credit reports. But try to think of bankruptcy as a class you took in the school of hard knocks. You can learn many good things from this class; the most important being, managing your future financial affairs. Learn to save and budget. Learn that credit is rarely a good thing. Cash is always the best. If you don't have the cash for something you want, your choices are either save until you do, or do without it because you can't afford it.The money I sent was borrowed money that I did not have and I have claimed bankruptcy so I do not have to repay it.
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