Hello anastasaiLow and welcome to RS. I am very sorry that you have been pulled in by these criminals. And I think it is also sad that you have gone this long without the support and understanding you need right now. Rebuilding is right. Being a victim of this crime is difficult for those who have not gone through it themselves to understand. There are some, but they are rare individuals and some of God's angels on earth.
Your friends and family are so wrong about you. You are not stupid and you are no idiot. Naive about this type of crime yes, but then again we all were before our scams. Because all of us are good, giving, and caring people whom before our scams could never even dream that suck lowlifes like the romance scammer could even exist in the world. Unfortunately for all of us they do, and we all found this out the hard way. And if you are guilty of anything at all it was wanting to find someone special to fill and share your life with. And if that is a crime then we are all guilty.
I also want to tell you that none of this is your fault. You were preyed upon by well trained criminals. As part of that training scammer are schooled in psychology, many even earn their degrees in the subject. How's that for sad. To take a form of medical science intended to help people and use it to manipulate and destroy peoples lives. And Rebuilding is right about another thing. They don't care about the pain and suffering they cause. For the romance scammer sitting down in front of a computer and doing these acts is no different then for us to go to our jobs and do a days worth of honest work.
They go home to their families when their done, and they can sleep just fine knowing what they do.
Now none of this may help with the pain you are feeling. But if you are like many of us your head is also swimming with question and the need to understand how this happened to you. There is more to learn, but I hope I have helped with some of that understanding.
And at least for me with understanding the how's and why's came more levels of healing. I hope the same holds true for you.
anastasaiLow
“To be honest I'm still reeling from the hurt and the shock, I've been bottling up my feelings because I don't have any supportive friends from where I lived.”
Well you do now. And we can be more then just friends. I like to think of the members of this site as family.
So if you like,,,,, Welcome to our family.
You can call on us or lean on our shoulders when ever like.