It is currently Sat Apr 20, 2019 1:33 am
It is not easy. I never told anyone. I cannot ever trll my friends and family but only on here. I lost $10,000 and I was willing to do it when I realized it. Someone once told me, if they can steal from you that means they need it more than you do.
Money can be earned back. Emotional and psychological impact take time to recover. I still havr my moments even though I know whoever "James Blair" is (I have to just mention the name for all to be careful) is not real, picture was stolen and maybe voice alteration software was used too.
Nonetheless, it takes time to disassociate and disconnect as well as accept the truth 100% even though I know it was a scam I just can't seem to drop it totally still.
I know all this will pass someday and laugh at it. Till then, this is tougher than I thought..Only the ones who go through will understand. Others do not and think of us as fools but we are not, these scammers are narcissists and socio paths unfortunately and problem is with them. It is a career and a business for them, understandable.
Thank you for all the support everyone and I am grateful for this site to help all victims with no judegement.
Hi there, I am very glad you were smart. You got out fast and did not lose much. Nice job on that.. SERIOUSLY!It’s been so helpful to find this support page because I just found out today the truth about a person is been talking to online for months and believed he was the person in the pictures and the videos he sent me. We met on match.com and I live in a small town so it seems unusual for someone in Nigeria to even know about my town but the horrible thing is I was doing my search by religion which I always do and came across him. I looked at his profile and he seemed like such a nice guy and was very handsome. I made a comment on his picture and then boom we were talking almost everyday up until today when I blocked him and reported him as a scammer on WhatsApp. I believed it was real I believed he was real and then when he said he loved me it made me feel so happy. He said he was going to come home and retire from the cia next week and that we’d spend Christmas together. I can’t believe I feel for everything. But I kept praying about him the whole time and asking God to help guide me through this because I became so attached so quickly. They are very manipulating and convincing. But my gut told me something was wrong when he asked me for money I began to think he wasn’t who he says he was then started researching as much as I could online till I got to the bottom of it. That was today when I found the real guy. In one of the photos there was a name of the photography studio that took the picture of him and I searched it and found names there and searched Facebook for every name until I found the real guy and sure enough I did. He is a model in LA and ex military as well as a stunt man. It’s so weird I feel so confused and don’t know what to think. I reached out to him thinking he could help me get through the pain but he’s not the real guy I’ve been talking to ugh it’s so confusing. It’s sad that I’ll miss the messages and talking everyday to this person it’s so unreal but felt real at the time. I just hope I can get through the hurt and really see why this happened and what I can learn from it. Luckily it was only two months of my life and $300. But I really wanted this guy to be real and I thought he was the one, the guy in the pictures anyway that is but it’s not real none of it is and this will take time to get over. I actually opened up and told my mom and she just said don’t think about it and move on....really that’s not healthy I need to process my feelings and take time to grieve or I’ll never get over this. Why does it hurt so bad. And the saddest part is that the person behind the pictures is working hard to make you feel like you’re in a relationship when people in real relationships don’t even work that hard. How can they do this without feeling anything. I hope they feel bad for all the people they hurt.....
Hi JUNE HO,Thank you..Maybe i was too hard to myself..until today i still can not forgive myself , for being very stupid .Trust to people that i never meet.
Yes, you are right..time will healed all my wound..and hopefully i will be happy again and always believed in the better future.
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