I have been reading this thread to study about how to advise someone whose relative is being scammed.
The victim is single mother, 51 years old, never married and have strong desire for getting married.
The scammer claims to be US Army Colonel in Syria, 41 years old, single and have 1 daughter who is 9 years old. The scammer said he will retire in August this year and will come to victim's country and get married, and buy a house there. Now is September but the guy never came to the victim's country. Scammer says he is busy in Syria and does not know when he will be released, and the victim believes him. The fake colonel was about to send -money to the victim, and the money was stuck at third country's custom, and victim paid tax. The relatives Ms. A and Ms. B do not know how much victim has paid.
Person in contact with me is victim's niece. The victim's grown up daughter is at the victim's niece's side too.
These relatives already did researches and found that the victim's story is exactly same as what are posted to the multiple anti-scam sites here and there. They have shown the information from here, the stories the victim has encountered are exactly same as what are written here. But she does not believe it.
The relatives searched the photo which the victim said that her darling sent her. They found
photo of different person (an US army veteran on wheel chair). They tried to convince the victim that the photo is photoshopped, but she does not believe it.
I did advised to the victim's niece about what are written here in this thread.
I have explained that the photo scammer uses is one of the frequently used photo of a German gentleman.
http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewto ... &start=405
And the photo victim shown then are obviously photoshopped.
I also asked help for a blogger writing about scammer using same photo, and confirmed that the head of the photo-shopped picture is the one we have in the forum.
http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewto ... 91&t=56161
I also explained that the scammers have that person's chat video, so that even if victim had chat with the person using web cam, victim should not believe that he is really there.
I have advised the victim's relatives to show all links of the scam information here as evidence that the photo has been reported in 2012, before the victim met the scammer, means whoever using that photo also should be scammer.
Then the relatives tried to convince the victim with all available data. The victim does not tell the relatives about the name of the scammer, and other info like SNS or email or phone number. But I believed that the photo information works. But actually did not.
The victim is at early 50s, not too old. The relatives can not easily shut down victim's correspondence tools and shut down her way to handle her own money, to prevent further loss of money from the family.
I have suggested the victim's daughter that what else they can do is
1) talk to bank and Western Union, Money Gram to prevent the victim to send any money.
2) In addition, I also explained about possibility of victim being made as money mule if she keep on trusting the scammer. This should be avoided.
3) I also suggested victim's grown up daughter to talk to police that her mother is being victimized by internet scammer but the mother does not believe it and never listen to the daughter, and need advice for next step to prevent further tragedy.
What else victim's niece and daughter can do to
1) convince stubborn victim and
2) prevent further loss of money??