Re: Psychology of a victim
Posted: Wed Apr 13, 2016 5:10 pm
Thank you Wingman182, you are very kind and that´s very interesting what you wrote about your dog! Thank you all for support!
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I fully understand you, I was also touched by his romantic letters. Now as I´m more aware of this, I see it in many movies and I see that this is the most powerful manipulation, at least on women, they start to behave irrationally and ignore danger. This is something very important I have learned by the scam, how powerful it is! And I learned, because of this, the person, who is wooed by someone new or already falling in love, should talk about it with somebody, and the worst thing he or she could do is to keep secrets, because then this person can be very easily manipulated!!! And this is exactly what the scammer did to me! I think this should be a rule even in not online relationships - to talk about it with a third person. KEEPING SECRETS ESPECIALLY IN ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS IS VERY BAD! The worst is that the person doesn´t even realize where is the turning point when he or she starts to lose control, thinking that still have control, but already lost it!Yeah, i know all this now, it was all stolen from somewhere in the net......that time, when being scammed, i had not even heared about romancescam, so i was deeply touched by his love letters.
I hope that my vocabulary was not affected by Nigerian grammar! But at least I saw the Nigerian grammar in action.At least i did improve my English Skills alot when chatting with him.
I think because of my scammer´s language skills were changing so much, that was one of the reasons that I didn´t fall in love with him, because I always doubted if he is literally stupid or intelligent, sensitive, contemplative... But even if his grammar was consistent, there were so many inconsistencies, that I would still doubt about his sincerity to me, but I wouldn´t have to bear his horrible grammar, this is how I meant it . But you are definitely right, that with an intelligent scammer it´s more likely the victim falls in love, and that is the biggest damage I was saved from. I will not write all my emotions and thoughts on these sites because scammers can read this too, but I´m thinking of publishing here some key parts of our conversation, there is seen very well how the language was changing. Now I know it was because there were more scammers writing to me in the name of one man, or at least somebody helped the first scammer.But one thing is sure: you should better not envy me for such an intelligent scammer, cause the emotional damage might be more severe, although it surely depends on the individual (vic).
Yes, I know this, I also couldn´t bear the guilt that some harm happened to someone because of me... We cared about and sacrificed so much for someone who didn´t care about us at all and would let us even die...What I can confess is, he had brainwashed me so deeply, that it was only HIM left in my brain and the really bad feeling he gave me when telling me "I was the only one left to support him, otherwise he would starve and could not buy meds for his typhoid" - I was the one letting him die!