Hi ladibyrd, I understand that feeling of split personality, but please consider also what Pinky says, by supporting these criminals you do harm to other victims. I´d like to share what I´ve found in literature, maybe that helps you understand HOW BAD IS STAYING IN CONTACT WITH THE SCAMMER, and understand yourself. I have read many interesting things about psychopaths recently, in fact I study this topic the last months very intensively.
Psychopaths are people who don´t feel compassion, don´t have conscience, they are emotionally cold, they are capable of perfect hypocrisy, they are charming, they have aggressive predatory (or at least parasitic) tendencies, and other characteristics. According to the stories here, how ruthless the scammers are, how they destroyed so many lives, what else are romance scammers than psychopaths? They are especially those antisocial ones, because psychopatic traits can also have people who are not antisocial, like surgeons, bankers, soldiers, pilots etc., professions that require cool head, determinedness and courage.
These are the professions with most psychopaths: general manager, lawyer, workers in media, sellers, surgeons, journalists, policeman, priest, director, official, and the least psychopaths: people working in health care, craftsman, cosmetician, charity worker, teacher, artist, accountant.
I will write now about those antisocial psychopaths. They are not controlled by their emotions, so they are capable of rational thinking even in situations where most of us fail, they are able to mask their emotional expressions and recognize them in other people. Their only aim is to win over others ! ! ! They make their happiness only at the expense of others. They do only what is good for them, never mind how they damage others. They consider agression as power and politeness as weakness.