It is currently Fri Apr 03, 2020 9:16 pm
I fully understand you, I was also touched by his romantic letters. Now as I´m more aware of this, I see it in many movies and I see that this is the most powerful manipulation, at least on women, they start to behave irrationally and ignore danger. This is something very important I have learned by the scam, how powerful it is! And I learned, because of this, the person, who is wooed by someone new or already falling in love, should talk about it with somebody, and the worst thing he or she could do is to keep secrets, because then this person can be very easily manipulated!!! And this is exactly what the scammer did to me! I think this should be a rule even in not online relationships - to talk about it with a third person. KEEPING SECRETS ESPECIALLY IN ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS IS VERY BAD! The worst is that the person doesn´t even realize where is the turning point when he or she starts to lose control, thinking that still have control, but already lost it!Yeah, i know all this now, it was all stolen from somewhere in the net......that time, when being scammed, i had not even heared about romancescam, so i was deeply touched by his love letters.
I hope that my vocabulary was not affected by Nigerian grammar!At least i did improve my English Skills alot when chatting with him.
But at least I saw the Nigerian grammar in action. I think because of my scammer´s language skills were changing so much, that was one of the reasons that I didn´t fall in love with him, because I always doubted if he is literally stupid or intelligent, sensitive, contemplative... But even if his grammar was consistent, there were so many inconsistencies, that I would still doubt about his sincerity to me, but I wouldn´t have to bear his horrible grammar, this is how I meant itBut one thing is sure: you should better not envy me for such an intelligent scammer, cause the emotional damage might be more severe, although it surely depends on the individual (vic).
. But you are definitely right, that with an intelligent scammer it´s more likely the victim falls in love, and that is the biggest damage I was saved from. I will not write all my emotions and thoughts on these sites because scammers can read this too, but I´m thinking of publishing here some key parts of our conversation, there is seen very well how the language was changing. Now I know it was because there were more scammers writing to me in the name of one man, or at least somebody helped the first scammer.Yes, I know this, I also couldn´t bear the guilt that some harm happened to someone because of me... We cared about and sacrificed so much for someone who didn´t care about us at all and would let us even die...What I can confess is, he had brainwashed me so deeply, that it was only HIM left in my brain and the really bad feeling he gave me when telling me "I was the only one left to support him, otherwise he would starve and could not buy meds for his typhoid" - I was the one letting him die!
It was planned and it was their aim to manipulate our feelings so that they can laugh at us! When I read my scammers letters in the light of my new knowledges, everything what seemed to me that it was about his love to me, now it´s only heartless and soulless babble. 
All they want is money, not you.
Now I see I was corresponding with a complete idiot! It really was usually somehow out of context, but I thought he is just a little bit crazy. 
). He wanted to communicate through Skype or Whatsapp right from the beginning, but I didn´t use them.
Like in the movie „We need to talk about Kevin“. At this point I was sure this man is crazy and very stupid, but there were so many inconsistencies and surprising things he wrote, this was so unusual to me, I had never encountered anything like that before, I wanted to know what is behind, why he is writing me those things. I know that some people will say that I deserved to be scammed if I talk to jerks. Ok, I don´t regret this experience, I learned something new. I´m some kind of „resercher of life“ and a by-product of it is that I sometimes get into trouble. And this was so much different than what I had experienced, that the most important for me was to find out what is behind this behaviour. I had never heard about romance scamming before, so this finding was something completely new to me. I knew that this man was lying, but it was so different than anything else, that I wanted to know why he is lying to me, what he wants?) (Does anybody know where is that? I couln´t find it on a map.) But as I had never heard about anything like that, so I couldn´t match his behaviour to anything I had known before, so I thought most probably he wants a cheap lover who is not aware of her rights and therefore he can lie to her and manipulate or somebody who admires her man unconditionally. I didn´t think about money at all, it couldn´t even came to my mind to connect this kind of behaviour to money cheating) ), well I am a survivor of kidney transplant, and have went through chemo 4 times, but there was a miracle, they miracle is you.. Because I believe that with you my health will be more better, that is what my spirit keep telling me. (he said his health is ok before... I left it without answer.)Return to “Support and Advice.”
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