Hi all. I have been lurking here the past week, reading everything and trying to figure out if I am dealing with a scammer? He found me on Facebook about 2-1/2 months ago and we have exchanged nearly 200 emails (all through FB) and we have had 2 chats on Google. Our last chat (last night) ended up being very intimate and so today I am just sick thinking about who was on the other end of that chat? <cringe>
His back story is similar to stories here. He works on an oil rig. Had been in Saudi Arabia and then Dubai. He is going to Florida in 2 weeks and then will be going on a leave. He is planning to come and see me the second week of December. He came on pretty strong from day one. At first it was more telling me I'm beautiful, how much he respects me, etc. Then he started up with the baby, hun, and other pet names. I told him not to call me those kinds of names because it was too premature. But now I am letting him. He thinks he is in love with me but I have told him that you can't fall in love with someone you have never met in person. I told him that we were friends. I have been a bit suspicious about him from early on. He was just so eager to be in a relationship. And, he had an outlandish story about his parents dying in a car crash last Spring. He is an only child and was left to deal with his father's companies and the estates. He had no other family but his Grandmother in London. She had been extremely ill. He never has asked me for money. However, I felt he was going to when he told me that he was really worried about his Grandmother and that she was running low on money and he was having trouble getting money to her. I guess one day she had to be hospitalized and I thought ok, this is it, he is going to ask me to send him money. He didn't because I ended up telling him I had a Dr friend in London who would check in on her and make sure she is ok? I asked for the hospital name, her name, her doctor's name. Well, apparently she died the next day so he did not need my help.
He knows I have been leary of him. I have told him that I was. He said he really wants to do whatever he can to prove me wrong. He feels I just have trust issues because of my last bf. About a month ago I did exchange emails with one of his FB friends. She said that he had written her some romantic emails and that she was unsure about him. She said another FB friend of his emailed her and said she was skeptical and was not sure if his pics were really of him. I told him I heard he was writing similar emails and he said I was wrong. He had friends but it was just casual with them. That I was the only woman he wanted to be with. I have unfriended him on Facebook 3-4 times over my suspicions.
A week ago I had a friend of mine friend him and he started flirting with her and told her a different story about the will. I had been told it came out about a month ago but he was telling her it was coming out the following week. I confronted him about this, and told him this other person was a friend of mine, and he should try and get his story straight. He told me he did not know her well so he mentioned it only to see if she would be interested in him for him, rather than his money. He told me he flirted with her because he thought he had no chance with me.
He was quite upset I set him up. Said he felt like a tool and that I should not play with his emotions like this. I told him that I just needed to be sure about him.
He told me after all this that I have always been his first choice but he thought I was not that interested so that is why he moved on and that finding someone is so important to him. So, I gave him another chance. He has told me that he wants to marry me, that he loves me, etc. We do have some wonderful talks and he is growing on me. He does know that I still have my doubts. I have told him that if he is "real" and if the feelings are there when we meet, then yes, I can see us having a future together.
He has told me that there is a lot he has not told me about the will and the estates. That he is going to tell me today. I have told him that I will help him as much as I feel comfortable with but I will never send him money or do anything that involves bank accounts. That I will not bend on this.
So, he does have some grammar problems. Anytime he writes "Am" instead of "I am," I cringe. He has my phone number and said he has tried calling me a few times. He hasn't left a message. He has never emailed me outside of Facebook, although he does know my gmail address since we have chatted.
He comes across like he adores me. The attention is flattering and I keep thinking well maybe it's just a coincidence he is on an oil rig like so many scammers. I have grown very fond of him. But, I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I worry that he is targetting me because of my job and he sees me as having a great lifestyle. My information on the internet is very transparent. I am easy to find. I have 5000 friends on FB and yes noticed a few of the photos here on my friends list, which I promptly blocked. I had my Facebook account, itunes and Paypal accounts hacked during the last few months.
Honestly, I am sure you all think I should just drop him. But, I just want to be 100% sure before I do that. Because I am falling for him, and may very likely end up a fool, or already am one.
That's my story. Just trying to figure things out. I can't find anything on the internet on him with regards to his pictures, email reverse look-up, etc. And he has not emailed me at a place where I can get a header. I may push for him to call me. Any thoughts on this?